Tell All Tuesday #9

Trying to navigate a workplace as a new grad is incredibly hard. I feel like there are so many essential things that nobody ever taught you in school. As someone who entered the workforce right after graduation, I felt like I was thrown to the wolves. So I have compiled a list to potentially help others avoid the same mistakes.

  1. You do not have to accept the very first job offer you get out of college. You may be scared to not accept the position, but if the work environment, leadership, pay, team isn’t what you want, then steer away. You can find a better fit.
  2. You need to be able to negotiate you pay. This is something I NEVER learned in college. After learning I was being severely underpaid compared to other new hires, I had to retroactively learn to negotiate for myself.
  3. Work-life balance is key. Companies give you time off, vacation days, and PTO for a reason–do not be afraid to take them. You need a break to do something other than work. Even if that “something” is just having a staycation at home.
  4. Navigating relationships with coworkers requires treading lightly. Since the goal is to have a work-life balance, having some separation from your work and home life is essential. So make friends with coworkers if you want to, but don’t forget to keep work AT WORK. You already work 8-10 hours of the day, your job doesn’t also need to follow you home.

While these are just some general tips I have accumulated after working post-college graduation, they may not fit every situation. Learning “how to be a professional” should be an essential part of every college curriculum so that new grads aren’t entering the workforce completely clueless. Maybe integrating a class into the graduation requirements would help achieve this.

Sincerely,

“A Lost Post-Grad”


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Visualize

People always say 

To visualize the outcome you want 

And manifest it to happen.

I was never a believer

Thought it wasn’t real 

How could painting 

A pretty picture in my head 

Amount to anything but disappointment.

The older I get

The more wrong I become.

I  have visualized

Relationshios 

Work opportunities 

Investments 

That have all panned out in the end.

So call it manifestation 

Or the power of positive thinking 

Whatever it is 

Has made a believer out of me. 

Tell All Tuesday #8

I think it is truly insane how much time people spend nowadays on social media. It terrifies me. Screen time is off the charts, even more so with the pandemic and stay at home orders. Social media alters your perception of reality. It is all FAKE.

The images are filtered and edited. That fitness influencer that you think looks incredible probably spent over 30 mins posing, re-posing, and flexing so hard just to find the perfect picture. It is terrible for mental health. People portray such a distorted “highlight reel” of their lives that it is impossible to ever feel like you are enough.

“Comparison is the thief of joy” has been ingrained into me recently as more and more influencers start posting “real” content proving to their millions of followers that they are just like normal people. But they still get PAID to do this. Influencers get paid to distort images of reality for mass consumption.

It makes me sad to think of the number of young school-aged kids who are growing up thinking they aren’t good enough since they use social media as their gauge. I was lucky enough not to have social media until high school, and even though it may have been lame at the time, I think it did wonders for my mental health as a child. I can’t imagine growing up and going through puberty and not seeing a single person who looked like me on social media.

I recently did a social media cleanse and stayed off Instagram, Twitter, TikTok, and Facebook for 90 days and while it was hard at first, I didn’t even think twice about it at the end. It did wonders for my self-esteem and mental health. I challenge each and every one of you guys who read this to do the same. See how long you can go without social media and see how truly FREE it makes you feel.

Sincerely,

“Social Media Hater”


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Recent Events

How many people have to die 

An unfair and unjust death 

To have a reform

Of the society we live in?


These are 

Mothers and fathers 

Sons and daughters 

That are victims of a terrible system

That didn’t have to die.


Blood has been spilled

But nobody seems to care. 

The pattern repeats itself 

Over and over

Because our country has more respect 

For guns 

Than an individual’s life.

Tell All Tuesday #7

Does anyone else ever feel like there is not enough time in the day to do all of the things a functioning human should do? 

For example: you wake up, brush your teeth, wash your face, do skincare (can’t forget the sunscreen), take vitamins, make and eat breakfast/coffee, go to work for 8-9 hours, eat lunch, workout, sleep 8 hours a day, drink enough water, journal and who knows what else during the day! 

Sometimes it just gets too much to remember all of the things you have to do in a day. Maybe that is my residual depression speaking, or maybe my lack of sleep, but it’s genuinely hard to get through the day sometimes. Most days I  manage to eat 2 meals, sleep 6 hours, and work— that’s it. What annoys me most is that the people around me never fail to remind me of all of the things I  forgot to do in a day, and how I “shouldn’t be so tired” all of the time. Maybe not, but this is just the reality I have learned to deal with since entering the adult world. 

Does this make me a bad adult, or am I just very bad at time management? Or is it my depression flaring up again and sapping all of the energy and motivation out of me? The world may never know, but I am exhausted trying to do it all.

Sincerely, 

“Exhausted and Overwhelmed”


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Untouched

Sometimes I think about things—

Things that will never be seen again.

Like the beach.

You will never see the exact identical beach 

Ever again 

The waves come and go 

Washing and adjusting the sand 

Creating new coastlines 

With each swift sweep of the ocean

Leaving things completely new 

Fresh 

Untouched.

That is how I wish each day arose

Completely new 

None of the baggage of the previous day 

No heartache 

No pain 

No memories 

Just a clean slate to start over on

Forcing you to make each day the best it can be. 

Tell All Tuesday #6

Why is it that people move to foreign countries and don’t bother the learn the official language?

It is so annoying when we have patients that need a translator every time they come into the office. The appointment, that should take an hour, ends up taking two hours and your entire scheduled day of patients runs behind schedule. It is time consuming.

My parents are immigrants but they made the effort and learned the language when they moved enough to get by in society. I, myself, am also an immigrant who had to learn the alphabet and basic English grammar rules at the age of 10 while in a foreign country. Today, I manage a healthcare facility. It wasn’t easy for me or for my parents but we made the effort and took the initiative to LEARN. It wasn’t easy for me while I was learning a new language. Sure I said things wrong, pronounced words with an accent, and even said sentences that didn’t make sense, but that was all part of the process. I was picked on for being “that kid” and even my parents were embarrassed when they said things incorrectly, but we didn’t let that stop us from learning the language and assimilating into the society we were now in.

 If it was up to me, every country needs to have “learn our national language” as a requirement of the immigration process.

Sincerely,

“Frustrated Immigrant”


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Fumes

Waking up tired 

No matter how much I sleep

Finishing the day exhausted 

No matter how many hours I work

The cycle is slowly eating away 

At any motivation I have

And the serotonin my body so graciously creates.

Replenishing these things

Feels like the most impossible task.

Drained doesn’t seem to fully encompass

The feeling of running on fumes for so long.

Just waiting for something 

To finally fill me back up.

Tell All Tuesday #5

Why does mental health have to be such a “bad” topic? Why am I bad, attention-seeking person when I speak about my mental health but I’m also weak if I don’t talk about it? Why is it appropriate to go behind someone’s back and say they’re lying about their mental health?

I can’t tell you the amount of times I’ve heard that my anxiety is fake or my depression isn’t as bad as it could be. I’m sorry, but tell that to my trauma. Tell that to the awful thoughts running through my head. Tell that to the overwhelming urge I have to just quit. Who gave anybody the right to judge another person’s way of coping? Who gave anybody the right to tell someone else what’s real and what’s not real in their own mind?

You never know what someone is going through. What thoughts are running through their head. What demons and battles they are fighting Every. Single. Day. You have no idea. So why not choose kindness. Why doubt someone when you could support them? Why make someone’s mental health worse when you could make it better by simply believing them? There’s no reason why I should feel uncomfortable talking to my friends about my mental state and what I’m going through, but I do. They’re nice to my face and then run behind me and tell others I’m faking.

I go to therapy once a week. You’d never know that looking at me or seeing me in public because I keep my happy face on. I’m sure I pass by at least 100 people a day who also struggle with mental health. You can’t visibly see or tell all the time when someone is battling a war in their head. So choose kindness. Believe someone when they tell you they’re not okay. Don’t shut them down because it’s inconvenient for you.

I’m sorry my mental health isn’t “bad enough” for you but it’s damn near crippling to me.

Sincerely,

“Mental Health Is Exhausting”


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Drop a comment below in you can relate to the reader’s frustration and let’s spread some positivity if possible 🙂

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Identity Crisis

How does one weave 

Concepts 

Of their past and present 

Into one cohesive unit?


This is the identity crisis 

Of a first generation immigrant child.

The need to maintain one’s home culture 

While embracing the one we are born into 

Sends young adults into a spiral.


We have a choice 

To assimilate completely 

Or remain separated from society, 

Unless we delicately learn 

To combine elements of both. 


There is no rule book 

No diagnostic code 

No instructions 

On how best to achieve this balance 

But I for one

Wish there was.


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